W asked:


Been married 19 years. Adopted son from Mom’s previous marriage at age 7. Son has never respected his Mom or me. He lies/ drinks/ been to jail for various offenses. Has no driver’s license for it was suspended 3 times, consecutively. Violated probation and was incarcerated for 3 months until Mom arranged treatment for him to get out. Went through 3 halfway houses finally finished treatment. Relapsed, got his girl pregnant and she doesn’t want anything to do with him anymore. I’ve been labeled he BAD Dad because I won’t put up with his ways. Mom takes her anger out on me when I try and put my foot down with him. She gave him her old car. He totatled it in 3 weeks. She has now signed for a 13 month lease so he can live closer to work. Has helped him furnish the new apt. Even given an old mattress out of our home so he will have something to sleep on. We now have to replace the mattress before next weekend for we have visitors coming. I am at my wits end. I have been told by him that his Mom is a beautiful woman and that I didn’t deserve such. Been told by him that I am a good for nothing and yet I helped raise him/ send him to college/ many different things. I am only told that I did this for my wife and not for him. Like I said he has been / is disrespectful to me and to her. Not sure what I need to do from here. Mom has gone to a therapist and with the first meeting decided to sign to the lease/ give furnishings etc. What do I do? I work hard to provide and so does she, but I see it all going to him one day and that is not acceptable.