Is your son or daughter ashamed of your home?
i’m trying asked:
I have a 15 year old daughter who is friends with some rather wealthy kids. She loves her family and is not ashamed of us, but recently she said she didn’t want to invite someone over because our house wasn’t as nice as theirs. We live in a doublewide, but it is extra nice, bricked under, the yard is beautiful and we live out in the country. Our house is furnished with very nice furniture, we have a beautiful home. There is a porch on the front, a patio on the back, etc. This really broke my heart. Do you think it is a phase she is going through? We are not poor, we are middle class. I am a teacher and my husband works for the USPS. We chose to live close to my parents out in the country. Should I just get over it and not say anything else about it?
I have a 15 year old daughter who is friends with some rather wealthy kids. She loves her family and is not ashamed of us, but recently she said she didn’t want to invite someone over because our house wasn’t as nice as theirs. We live in a doublewide, but it is extra nice, bricked under, the yard is beautiful and we live out in the country. Our house is furnished with very nice furniture, we have a beautiful home. There is a porch on the front, a patio on the back, etc. This really broke my heart. Do you think it is a phase she is going through? We are not poor, we are middle class. I am a teacher and my husband works for the USPS. We chose to live close to my parents out in the country. Should I just get over it and not say anything else about it?
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well im 16 and when i was 13-14 i used to think my house wasn’t good enough and i never invited my friends over i look back and think i was a idiot we have a nice house we may not be rich but its nice and i started inviting people over….
what im trying to say is its just a phase she will get over it and invite friends over XxRawrXx
You can either let it go or ask her baout why she thinks the house she lives in is not good enough for her friends. we live in an apartment complex that has a rather bad reputation from many years before and when my daughter said she lives here everyone was nervous about coming over. Even my daughter did not want her friends to come over. don’t take it personal she will eventually grow out of it and will want to have friends over and they will have a good time. Sonnenblume
Well, my parents designed our house and I think they are very proud of it. But I (at the moment) hate it. All my friends think I’m wealthy coz its huge and really nicely furnished with lots of space and nice things from us traveling overseas. And also with house prices rising, I live in an estate which is really peaceful and calm, and tonnes of people think its expensive. I hate it because our backyard looks like a rain forest and our bricks are so UGLY!! I think my house is ugly, but no one else does (stuff them lol)
But yeah, don’t take it too seriously. It’ll wear off after a while, and I’m sure your daughter and ME will learn to appreciate our houses in the future!! Death Be Not Proud
I know it hurts, but you have to just ignore it this seems to be the norm witih kids. My son is eight and I go through it becasue he has a friend where both parents are doctors I on the other hand live pay check to pay check, single parent of three, FT worker, and FT student . My son always played at their eloboratly expensive home on the lake. One day his mother suggested they play over at our home, my son’s friend was not there longer than 30 minutes before he decieded he wanted to go home with no explanation of why. I was even embarrassed becasuse at that time we lived in a not so great neighborhood. I am not rich, but do a decent job as a single parent and I now live in a decent neighborhood, but still check to check and my sons friend has come over once since the move and he had a great time.
I felt this way growing up mainly because we did not have enough privacy in our home. I just make sure now that my son has privacy and his space is inviting for visitors. I just get over worrying about it, as long as my home is clean, safe, and inviting. alleta2000
Fifteen year old children can be cruel. I bet they are the brick home, pool in the yard, mommy and daddy gives them everything they want, popular girls, we all went to school with.
Yep. It is a phase, one a lot of teens go through. I would let her know in a calm sweet voice that It made me sad that she chose friends that she feels would look down on anyone just because they didn’t have material things just like theirs. She is wanting to fit in so much she is losing site of the real issue. Should she be friends with someone that is that materialistic? True friends don’t care where you live or what your house looks like, they come to see you not your things. Then drop it. I just hope her friends are not as wild as the “popular” girls at my high school were. Good luck.
PS: I am glad that she is so close to her mother that she was able to tell you how she feels, that is a good thing. snugglyone
Youre not the one living in a singlewide mobile home with crappy furniture. I’ve always hated it. That’s why I’m moving in with my grandparents. But yeah, my parents take it personally and that is what im aiming for. But your house sounds nice. o0opink_fuzzy
I am not ashamed of my house AT ALL we live in a beautiful 3 story house decorated beautifully only living with 3 brothers and a sister all atleast 6 years older than me the house gets REALLY messy and I have to clean it up! ♥Babi_girl♥